My girlfriend's grandma with whom she is extremely close is almost certainly going to die today, and I'm upset that it's throwing a wrench in our New Year's Eve plans. I obviously feel terrible for my girlfriend and her family, but I'm also being pretty selfish and it makes me an asshole.
Confession Thread v2
Just read through the old v1 thread. Good times. Im feeling a bit sad reading all those names.
Tarzan have you ever tried tinder or anything. Idk how desperate you want sex but it's pretty easy to meet women and have hookups using that app. As douchey as this sounds I have a method that works probably 75% of the time for me that I can share with you.
It probably wouldn't be that great of a first time though.
Not too desperate tbh, pretty used to it by now. And yeah i have tried tinder, but even that is awkward for me. So in the (rare) occasion i did get a match most of the times no words were even exchanged. i think my best chances will be with someone i get to know in a regular, non-flirting situation (school, work, friends of friends). In a club or on tinder appearance is the first and only thing you get judged on and those are not really my strong points.
I would recommend chatting and texting with random girls on Tinder. Even if you have no intentions of meeting anyone it's still nice practice and can be a confidence boost. Also they're strangers and you will probably never see them irl so dont be nervous about it! You got nothing to lose. It's nice practice for when you actually meet someone you like and want to text them.
Also here's a bit of a confession i guess. It's not really a big deal but seems relevant to the discussion in the beginning of this thread. For some reason I keep it a secret. The only person that actually knows this is my mom.
For the past year I've been taking Zoloft for social anxiety. I've suffered from really bad social anxiety for my entire life. I tried a ton of things to help with it. Meditation, exercise, alcohol, weed, etc. Nothing seemed to help substantially. I always assumed that with the more life experience I had that it would eventually go away but instead I was still getting nervous about the same small things and I actually felt like it was getting worse. I finally decided around December last year to go to a doctor and see if I could get prescribed something for it. This took me a long time to build the courage to do since the idea of meeting with a stranger and telling them about my feelings in a 1 on 1 situation scared the shit out of me. It ended up not being a big deal at all and the meeting took maybe 5 minutes and my doctor prescribed me Zoloft.
I've been taking it for a year now and I have to say it's been the biggest life changer for me. I wouldn't say that the social anxiety is completely gone but it doesn't affect me in a physically tormenting way anymore. Those small tasks that use to freak me out no longer feel like a big deal. Its helped with my social life, romantic life, and professional life in hugely positive way.
I know prescription drugs and specifically SSRI's get a bad rap but honestly it's been amazing for me and has helped me personally. I guess I keep it a secret because so many people have serious negative opinions about SSRI's and believe they turn you into a zombie or something. I take a pretty small dosage so I haven't felt any of the negative attributes people associate with the drug.
Also here's a bit of a confession i guess. It's not really a big deal but seems relevant to the discussion in the beginning of this thread. For some reason I keep it a secret. The only person that actually knows this is my mom.
For the past year I've been taking Zoloft for social anxiety. I've suffered from really bad social anxiety for my entire life. I tried a ton of things to help with it. Meditation, exercise, alcohol, weed, etc. Nothing seemed to help substantially. I always assumed that with the more life experience I had that it would eventually go away but instead I was still getting nervous about the same small things and I actually felt like it was getting worse. I finally decided around December last year to go to a doctor and see if I could get prescribed something for it. This took me a long time to build the courage to do since the idea of meeting with a stranger and telling them about my feelings in a 1 on 1 situation scared the shit out of me. It ended up not being a big deal at all and the meeting took maybe 5 minutes and my doctor prescribed me Zoloft.
I've been taking it for a year now and I have to say it's been the biggest life changer for me. I wouldn't say that the social anxiety is completely gone but it doesn't affect me in a physically tormenting way anymore. Those small tasks that use to freak me out no longer feel like a big deal. Its helped with my social life, romantic life, and professional life in hugely positive way.
I know prescription drugs and specifically SSRI's get a bad rap but honestly it's been amazing for me and has helped me personally. I guess I keep it a secret because so many people have serious negative opinions about SSRI's and believe they turn you into a zombie or something. I take a pretty small dosage so I haven't felt any of the negative attributes people associate with the drug.
good for you dude
what type of situations would your anxiety rise up? for me its usually talking to new people, or speaking in class or something. My heart starts to race and I get hella nervous
Yeah generally situations similar to that but also smaller things too. Stuff like ordering food from a place I'd never been to before. Sometimes I'd get really nervous about running into people I'm acquainted with while just walking around my college campus. It all feels really stupid now though. I think anxiety is good to have on some level since it might make you prepare yourself better for new situations. But that shit use to really physically torment me. I'm not an irrational person so I always knew it was stupid to be getting nervous but I couldn't do anything about it.
